The much-anticipated Yasmin Mogahed LIVE in Singapore 2023 event kicked off with a powerful opening day that delved deep into the Quranic study of trauma and narcissism, leaving attendees with invaluable insights and lessons.
The day started with Kat Aziz's speech, which emphasized the importance of knowing one's purpose and intention. Ustazah Yasmin Mogahed, a renowned speaker and author, led the session and guided the audience through a transformative journey.
Ustazah Yasmin began the session by encouraging the audience to reflect on two crucial questions: What is our intention for attending the event today, and what dua would we like to make for ourselves and the people in the room?
Setting intentions is a vital step in embarking on a path of self-discovery and healing.
Ustazah Yasmin introduced an essential Quranic verse, Surah Al-Baqarah, Ayat 38, which states:
قُلْنَا ٱهْبِطُوا۟ مِنْهَا جَمِيعًۭا ۖ فَإِمَّا يَأْتِيَنَّكُم مِّنِّى هُدًۭى فَمَن تَبِعَ هُدَاىَ فَلَا خَوْفٌ عَلَيْهِمْ وَلَا هُمْ يَحْزَنُونَ ٣٨
We said, “Descend all of you! Then when guidance comes to you from Me, whoever follows it, there will be no fear for them, nor will they grieve.
[Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:38]
From this verse, we can draw several key lessons:
When Adam (A.S.) was brought to Earth, Allah SWT promised to send guidance. Those who follow this guidance will find solace and protection from fear and grief.
It's important to understand that following Allah's guidance doesn't mean we will never experience fear or grief. Instead, it means that we will not be overwhelmed by these emotions. The phrase "a touch of fear" reminds us that pain and suffering are temporary.
Sabr does not imply that we should suppress our emotions. Unfortunately, a toxic myth circulates, suggesting that expressing sadness or grief indicates weak faith. This misconception can be harmful, and on Day 2, we will explore steps to heal from this toxicity.
Ustazah Yasmin shared a profound hadith: "Tie your camel and have Tawakkul (trust in Allah)." In this hadith, a Bedouin man left his camel untied, relying solely on Allah's protection. However, the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) advised him to tie his camel first. Here's what we can learn from this hadith:
When facing trauma or hardship, seek help through counseling, therapy, or confiding in a trusted friend. Allah SWT provides tools and resources, but it's essential to take active steps to heal.
لَهُۥ مُعَقِّبَـٰتٌۭ مِّنۢ بَيْنِ يَدَيْهِ وَمِنْ خَلْفِهِۦ يَحْفَظُونَهُۥ مِنْ أَمْرِ ٱللَّهِ ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ لَا يُغَيِّرُ مَا بِقَوْمٍ حَتَّىٰ يُغَيِّرُوا۟ مَا بِأَنفُسِهِمْ ۗ وَإِذَآ أَرَادَ ٱللَّهُ بِقَوْمٍۢ سُوٓءًۭا فَلَا مَرَدَّ لَهُۥ ۚ وَمَا لَهُم مِّن دُونِهِۦ مِن وَالٍ ١١
For each one there are successive angels before and behind, protecting them by Allah’s command. Indeed, Allah would never change a people’s state ˹of favour˺ until they change their own state ˹of faith˺. And if it is Allah’s Will to torment a people, it can never be averted, nor can they find a protector other than Him.
[Surah Ar-Ra'd, 13:11]
Allah SWT's Guidance: Allah SWT helps those who take action to change their circumstances. Depend on Allah SWT for healing while utilizing the resources He has provided.
Trust that only Allah SWT can provide the ultimate healing. While seeking tools and resources, remember that Allah SWT is the source of healing.
Ustazah encouraged attendees to pray Tahajjud, treating it as an intensive care unit (ICU) for all their problems. Tahajjud prayer holds immense power in seeking solace and guidance.
The first day of the Kaifiyyah x Yasmin Mogahed event left attendees with profound lessons on healing, intention-setting, and the balance between seeking help and trusting in Allah SWT.
On Day 2, we explored ways to heal and unlearn toxic misconceptions, let us remember that our journey toward healing is guided by faith, action, and trust in the Almighty.